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Facebook at Odds with the Other Book

November 17, 2010

Facebook Homepage - Getty ImagesNo one has said Facebook is against the Bible or anything…yet.  The Rev. Cedric Miller, a pastor in Neptune, New Jersey, has laid forth the claim that Facebook may guide some down an unsavory path—infidelity.

His beef stems from his experience giving marriage counseling.  Apparently, Facebook makes it easier for break-ups to reconnect…who would have thought?  This would normally lack malice, as Facebook would be bringing the two people back together.  However, the reconnection comes when at least one person has already entered a marriage with another person—not so good, under these conditions.  Miller has counseled 20 couples (of the 1,100 members) at the Living Word Christian Fellowship Church.  I can see why the good reverend is concerned.

Rev. Cedric MillerHe is going overboard.  He suggested all couples in the congregation share their Facebook passwords or delete their accounts.  This weekend, he is going to delete his account, though he uses it to communicate with his sizable family.  He is also suggesting his married staff and church leaders follow suit, deleting their accounts, or resign.  Soon, he will suggest the policy spread to all married couples.  Staff members who are not married will not be required to delete their accounts.

First, he has no place suggesting couples exchange passwords…unless the couple has a single account, in which case the password is not an issue.  Yeah, that method adds transparency to the relationship…but some of us are capable of having Facebook without cheating on a spouse.  Even crazier, some of us can have exes as friends on Facebook without forgetting the bottom line:  it did not work out before, and it most likely will not work out now.  Simple.  And I would never give anyone my password to any online account I hold…except under extreme circumstances.

ExesAs far as Miller basically ordering church leaders to delete Facebook accounts…that is none of his concern.  If the person posts content unbecoming of someone in his/her position, I could understand Miller getting upset.  However, he is punishing the many for the lack of integrity of few in a preemptive move reminiscent of pre-sixteenth century England.  Banning Facebook is not the answer.  The shift in the paradigm he sees may not be one he likes, but it is probably going to happen.  If his congregation has such an affliction with Facebook, perhaps he should scale back his suggestion to merely not adding an ex as a friend.  Clearly, the underlying factor is not Facebook, but whatever void left a member of one of the couples susceptible to fantasies of an ex creeping back.  Somebody, obviously, had not moved on.

I have an ex as a friend on my account, but I do not actively seek to rekindle anything, nor consider it a possibility.  In honesty, I accepted the friend request to avoid being rude.  I will probably delete her in the future, as I do not have much to say to her.  Nevertheless, being friends with her on Facebook is not having any effect (adverse or otherwise) on life.